How To Use Your Children’s Affirmation Cards

Tips to Parents/Carers

What are they??

These cards are designed in a fun way to encourage your child (or children) to foster a positive mind-set in early childhood.  Creating a feeling of self-worth, confidence and gratitude in children can encourage a healthy mental attitude in adulthood and so I hope these cards will have a lasting effect on your child.

My children (age 7 & 9) were instrumental in helping create these cards. From the colours and the graphics to the actual statements used. So you could say these are cards for kids, made by kids (with a little help from Mum!).

The Sciencey bit!

Affirmations work on a particular area of our brain known as the Reticular Activating System (RAS). This area keeps us from feeling overwhelmed and allows us to notice what we are interested in or things that are connected with our beliefs and values. The RAS obtains this information from what is stored in the sub-conscious. Humans are wired
to think negatively unfortunately and so much of our ‘self-talk’ will be negative too (I am not good enough, I can’t do this, I can’t do that). Affirmations, when practised regularly, will create neuro-pathways in the brain which in turn will pave the way for a new way of thinking. The more we repeat these statements, the more we believe them. The more we believe them the more the RAS will show us things in our lives to confirm and back up these statements. This, therefore, creates a sense of positivity and good well-being in your child.

These cards are also designed to encourage children to think about the world around them and to take notice of the things that are already great and positive in their lives.

How to use them!

When you first receive the cards, you might want to explore them with your child by spreading them out on a table and talking about the colours and designs etc. Or you might wish to keep the cards as a surprise each day.

When you have a moment, each morning, ask your child to pick a card at random out of the box. I ask my children to do it when they are eating breakfast. I leave the box on the table each morning and it soon becomes a habit to pick one out.

Ask your child to read the card aloud (or if your child isn’t a confident reader feel free to read it with them). Affirmations become powerful the more that you use them. You could ask them to repeat it 3 times each morning. Encourage them to say it louder and with more emphasis each time and have fun with it! You can then ask them what they think the Affirmation means (most of them will mean something different to everyone), how it makes them feel etc. If your child doesn’t want to talk about it or can’t find the words to describe what it means or how it makes them feel, or even if they don’t want to repeat it, that’s fine too. It will all come with practice!

Most of all, I hope your child enjoys using these cards and that they become part of their daily routine.

It would be great to hear how you getting on with them!

Liz x




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Sliding Doors- how can your decisions impact your birth?

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Sometimes deciding to do something which is a bit (or a lot) outside of your comfort zone can feel really strange. But what is the impact of NOT getting out of your comfort Zone?

I bet most of you have seen that lovely Rom Com Drama “Sliding Doors” staring Gwyneth Paltrow …where two versions of one person’s life run alongside each other at the same time…and the viewer gets to see both versions of that life… Well let me take you through a little Sliding Doors scenario right now, to help you understand the impact that the decisions you make can have on your life.

In this ‘movie’ Gwynee  isn’t the star.

It’s you.

Let’s give YOU (the heroine in this story) a name. I’m gonna call you Belle*.

One day, Belle, who is 20 weeks pregnant, visits a local Baby & Pregnancy Fair. She has gone with the intention of finding a local yoga class and picking up a few bargains for the baby. Belle notice’s a woman with long, red hair and a friendly face, chatting to some other pregnant women. They are exchanging details and talking quite intently. Intrigued, Belle makes her way towards the lady. The lady introduces herself as, Liz (c’mon- I was always gonna star in my own movie!). Liz begins to talk to Belle about the Antenatal Course she teaches. It’s called Hypnobirthing. Belle is vaguely familiar with the word and so listens to what Liz has to say.

This is the sliding door moment. Belle can either smile politely, declining any further information or she can decide to book onto a course (Liz is running some good offers at this fair!).

The Belle who decides to not to do Hypnobirthing actually says to Liz. “I have a really low pain threshold, all my friends have had horrible birth’s, I am just going to take all the drugs I can and hope for the best. Thanks- Bye!” This Belle walks away and carries on with her pregnancy.  She pushes away the fear, rushing from her job to home and vice versa, trying to sleep at night but struggling due to the anxiety which is beginning to creep in. She hasn’t done any real preparation. She never does get round to doing that yoga class either. Her partner, is a lovely supportive person but doesn’t really know how to help her during her pregnancy or during labour and so he is feeling anxious too.

The big day comes. Labour begins. All those horrible stories from her friends come rushing to her mind in images and words. She thinks “this is going to be so awful and painful…I can’t wait for it to be over”. In response to those thoughts, Belle’s body tense’s up, she holds her breath, grits her teeth and just waits for the contraction to be over. This goes on for what feels like hours when eventually Belle goes into the obstetric led unit at her local hospital. There is no birth centre just a delivery suite environment which Belle had selected because she thought it was the safest option. Belle has never visited this hospital before today and upon entering her new environment, her fear increases and her contractions decrease.

When she is examined, Belle is told that she is 4 cm and can stay in the hospital. Belle feels gutted…it feels like it has taken so long to get to 4cm, she doesn’t know how much longer she can go on for… Her contractions have come back but she isn’t making as much progress as the midwives would expect. The doctor wants to speed her labour up and Belle, not knowing there are other options, goes ahead. Her contractions become stronger, the pain is unbearable now, she is so afraid. She asks for pain relief. Again, Belle doesn’t know what her options are or anything about the drugs on offer. When the drug takes effect, she feels the pain dim but not go away. She begins to feel spaced out, not in control and her fear increases.

Eventually, Belle becomes exhausted. The midwives and consultants are concerned and so they intervene. It feels like there are a lot of people in the room, coaching her on when and how to push, the cord is cut immediately, after a minute or two, Belle’s baby girl is passed to her and she feels relieved that her ordeal is now over. She can concentrate on getting to know her baby. But she can’t shake the feeling that it could have been so very different.

Let’s go back to the Sliding Door moment at that Pregnancy and Baby Fair. This Belle has decided to book onto the Hypnobirthing course. The course begins in two weeks and Belle and her husband, Tom, are looking forward to it. Even after the first session Belle begins to feel calmer. She understands the mind/body connection which is something she has never thought about before. In earnest she begins to listen to her MP3’s and looks forward to each weekly Hypnobirthing session. Belle learns how her body works and how to work with it, she learns about what happens during labour and how to help increase the flow of Oxytocin and Endorphins. Tom learns how he can support Belle and he completely understands what his role is. Together they finish the course knowing all this as well how the induction process works and how Hypnobirthing can help in Special Circumstances. Armed with a toolkit of breathing and relaxation techniques Belle and Tom continue their practice at home, listening to the MP3’s daily. Belle feels positive, is enjoying her pregnancy and even looking forward to the birth. Belle and Liz stay in touch throughout the rest of the pregnancy and when Belle has a wobble at 36 weeks, Liz is there to help her get back on track.

The big day arrives. Labour begins. Initially Belle feels anxious but she talks to Tom, practices her Calm breathing and soon she feels calm again. As labour progresses she can’t believe how effective her breathing techniques are and she feels so in control. Her body is relaxed and she visualises her body opening and expanding- doing the job it is designed to do. She runs her favourite affirmation through her mind “Your surges are not stronger than you because they are you”.

Tom has been timing her surges and together they decide it’s time to head to the Birth Centre. Belle spent a lot of time looking at her local hospitals and birth centres and settled upon one which was 20 minutes from her home. When she arrives, the midwife greets her with a smile and notices how calm she is. “Are you doing Hypnobirthing?” she asks. Belle is elated that her midwife seems to know and approve of Hypnobirthing and immediately begins to feel relaxed in her care and in her new environment.

Belle decides she would like a vaginal examination at this stage but that she doesn’t want any more unless it’s necessary. The midwife tells her she is 4cm. Belle is elated! Established labour! The midwife says she will start to fill the birthing pool soon and Belle and Tom settle in. Tom puts up some affirmations and starts to play Belle’s MP3’s. He gets out the aromatherapy oils and then applies some Light Touch Massage to Belle’s back.

Belle starts to “moo” after some time and make some deep throaty noises. Tom feels hopeful that things are progressing quickly! Belle gets in the water and it isn’t long until she feels the need to breathe her baby down. She panics a little as her body starts to push her baby out. It’s a feeling like no other! Tom gets Belle to look him in the eyes and he reassures her. They breathe together and she feels calm again. She takes her time, going with the lead of body and eventually she feels her baby’s head crowning. The midwife encourages her to keep doing what she is doing and Belle takes comfort in that. When the baby’s head is born, Belle knows that it won’t be long until she feels her baby in her arms. Another surge of her body and Belle slowly scoops her baby up in her arms and holds her close to her chest. She feels elated! She did it!!! Her baby looks into her eyes and Belle has never felt love like it. The cord ceases pulsating and Tom cuts it. He feels so proud that they both worked as a team to create such a positive experience.

Belle’s decision NOT to do Hypnobirthing impacted her whole pregnancy. She was frightened, ill-informed and Tom didn’t really feature in her birth experience at all. But the Belle who decided to give Hypnobirthing a chance had a totally different experience. This Belle begins parenthood confidently and feels self-assured.

So, here is your “Sliding Door” moment….

On the 21st January I am holding a FREE Hypnobirthing Taster session. If you want to find out more about how Hypnobirthing can help you prepare positively for labour and birth send me an email to and I will book you on!

*Belle is totally fictional


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Laura’s Positive Induction Story

Our little girl was due on 5th October – my husband Alex’s birthday!! I had heard wonderful things about hypnobirthing from from colleagues and being the first of my friends to have a baby, I was keen to face birth with a positive and calm outlook!

My birth, however, wasn’t the start that I imagined! My waters broke at 3.30pm on 2nd October (after a sneaky drive thru large Big Mac meal and strawberry milkshake!!) at home, which was a bit of a surprise. I called the hospital and they advised us to come in for an examination as my contractions hadn’t started, but said we would probably be coming home after. We took the bags just in case.

When we arrived both mine and baby’s heart rate were high and we were placed on a monitor for a few hours – during which they noticed several dips in baby’s heartbeat which they thought was cord compression – and advised it would be safest for baby to induce right away, but to be prepared that if her heartbeat continued to fluctuate it may be an emergency C-section.

At this point I will admit I was so frightened- this wasn’t the calm water birth with early labour at home that I had imagined. I hadn’t even brought my birthing ball!

However I knew that I was making the right decision for baby, and consented to the induction. After a brief few hours sleep and a failed pessary, they started the drip at 9.30am on 3 October. I couldn’t move off the bed, strapped onto the heart rate monitor but I listened to my affirmations and Alex kept reminding me to breath deeply and fill my abdomen! I listened to the affirmations but couldn’t relax, there was a woman next door screaming so loudly! So we put on Michael Buble, which wasn’t in the plan but did he trick.

As my contractions got more intense throughout the morning we had the television on and watched a bit of homes under the hammer and this morning until 12.30 when I reached for the gas and air!

Thea Isabelle Clarke was born just a few hours later at 15.07pm, just 1 and a half hours after I had asked for an epidural and was told I was fully dilated!

There were a few moments when the midwives wanted to allow the doctors to intervene. I used my hypnobirthing techniques to visualise her moving down – I was determined to deliver her myself and I did – all 9lbs!

I said to Liz at the start of the course that what I wanted was to feel proud of myself – and I really have never felt prouder. We didn’t have the birth we imagined, but we did it!

Thank you for everything Liz- thanks to you we knew that we could ‘calmly face whatever terms my birthing took’


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Screw the birth prep…I’m gonna wing it…

hypnobirthing solihull, pregnancy, antenatal classes“Screw the birth prep…I’m gonna wing it”….



This (or something similar) I hear quite regularly. From educated, intelligent women.

Women who revised for their GCSE’s, NVQ’s, A Levels, Degrees, Diploma’s so they had the knowledge and information that they needed.

Women who practised driving prior to their test so they could feel confident.

Women who researched for interviews.  Did practice questions and answers so that they were aware of the latest developments within their careers. And knew as much information about the prospective employer as possible.

Women who thought about what they were going to wear on a first date, considered what the atmosphere would be like, how to connect with their beau (lots of batting of eyelashes and fancy knickers etc!).

Yet, when it comes to what is ultimately THE most important moment of their lives…the moment when they they bring their precious baby into the world and begin the life changing process of becoming a parent, they opt for…winging it.

It just doesn’t make sense.

There must be a reason why women choose not to educate themselves about birth.

Why they choose not to practice breathing and relaxation techniques.

Why they don’t consider making an informed choice about where to birth their baby.

Why they don’t think about the environment in which their baby will born.

Could it be fear? Fear of standing out, being different to others. Fear of things not working out as they had planned.

Could it be tunnel vision? We are all so programmed to believe that birth is this horrible experience we have no control over…is it just too hard for people to think it could be better than that? If they think it’s going to be awful anyway perhaps there isn’t any point in doing any prep.

Could it be blind faith? Total and utter faith in your body, that it knows what to do…so why do anything?

I’m not sure what the reason is. Maybe there are many. What I do know is that women who spend time preparing for labour and birth using Hypnobirthing have the benefit of;

  • Increasing their knowledge about birth- knowledge is power
  • They find the best place to birth their baby and realise that a hospital birth surrounded by doctors isn’t always the best place for you to give birth (but also that sometimes it is)
  • They take time to connect and bond with their baby. Preparing themselves for parenthood.
  • They feel positive about their upcoming birth and empowered to make decisions.
  • They know their options
  • They know that not every labour sails by without a problem, but they feel confident that they can adapt to whatever may occur
  • Their partners know how to support them because they have been through the classes together.
  • Their partners can advocate and communicate well with care providers

Women who prepare for birth using Hypnobirthing make such massive changes to their mindset and the way they feel about birth, it transforms their pregnancy, birth experience and even impacts their whole lives for the better.

Why wing it? Why chance it? You only get one shot at each birth- so make it the best most positive experience it can possibly be.

Book onto one of my FREE taster sessions (run monthly) or try the  first session of Hypnobirthing for FREE in November. Email to find out more.

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Did Bridget Jones have a positive birth?

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Last night I went to see “Bridget Jones’ Baby” and I literally cried with laughter all the way through. I even found the birthy bit funny and actually saw some real benefits to the portrayal of birth within the film. I could bang on about the really negative reflections of birth that I saw and how damaging they can be to women and their birth experiences but I chose to see the positive instead.

It’s a real bug bear of mine to have to watch women in labour on the telly or in films and see what should be the most empowering moment of our lives shown in such a damaging light. We have OBEM inflicted on us every year and then every soap, boxset or film I watch, showing a women in labour, makes me eye roll, shake my head and tut.

So it came as surprise, just how funny and positive I found this film.

Ok, so there were times when Bridget was lying on her back and she did bite down on (one of) her partner’s hands causing him to bleed…

…and yes, she also did some suspect purple pushing…

…and there was some derogatory comments from the Obstetrician…

But other than that- she rocked it (or rather the film producers could have portrayed the birth in a much more negative light).

If this was a real birth I would be wanting to high five Bridget and tell her how incredible she is. No drugs, no intervention, all natural vaginal birth.

During her pregnancy, she and her birth partners attended antenatal classes and learnt massage techniques and how to breathe (the breathing Bridget ended up doing during labour was more likely to cause her to hyperventilate than actually help but still…). Seeing as a ridiculously low number of women don’t even attend the FREE antenatal classes that are available from the NHS and by private companies, it was nice to see that Bridget, and her 2 birth companions attended the classes, enjoyed them and learnt a thing or two as well.

In my classes I suggest to the Birth Companion that he/she does WHATEVER is needed by the birthing mother and that they need to be aware that their mind-set will have a massive impact on how Mum feels and responds in labour. So it was good to see Mr Darcy doing whatever he HAD to do to support Bridget which at one point involved carrying her through the streets of London to the hospital because she didn’t want to walk. It was also lovely to see their connection with one another during labour- that is something else I emphasise in my classes. Feeling connected, close and supported  by your partner really helps with the release and flow of the hormones which you need to feel as good as possible in labour and of course to keep your labour progressing.

We didn’t see the baby actually being born (and the birth companions weren’t there for that bit- which was disappointing…something about their favourite pub being burnt down???) but when we get to meet the baby, the empowering glow on Bridget’s face is awesome (you can’t help but smile too) and baby has a nice coat of vernix on it – high 5 to the researchers!!

Of course, there are many ways that this film could have improved upon its portrayal of birth but there were definitely some positives.

Whether you want a Bridget Jones style birth, something much more Zen or perhaps something more organised (!) come along to one of my FREE Hypnobirthing Taster sessions to find out how (oh and definitely check out the film!).

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Ralph’s Positive Birth

I’d spent the first few weeks of my maternity leave trying to induce labour naturally- acupressure, spicy food, sex- the usual, there was no way i was being medically induced. However on Wednesday 18th May I woke up and decided that all these remedies were in vain and the baby would come when it was ready. I decided to enjoy the free time I had left and let go of the fear of being induced, leaving it down to fate.
Fortunately fate was on my side and at 2am the following morning at 39 +5 I woke with period pains and decided to get up. After about half an hour I realised I was potentially in labour and started timing my contractions. At 6am after a lovely warm shower I woke my husband (he now admits he didn’t believe I was actually in labour, as performing a lower back rub seemed to soothed the discomfort).
Russ (my husband) ran me a bath, switched on the positive affirmations MP3’s and generally guided me through each surge with key words and phrases we’d discussed before hand.
At 7.30am Russ called the hospital, by now surges were 3 minutes apart but only lasting 20 seconds. I was advised to stay at home until they reached a minute long but I had concerns about the babies movements so we headed to the hospital for monitoring.Once plugged up to the machines, my Husband commented on how the machine spiked every time I experienced a surge- at this point he realised I really was in labour! The baby’s movements and heart beat were good and surges were consistent and regular.
I was admitted to the ward after an examination revealed I was 3cm dilated. I was given prearranged antibiotics to counteract the GBS I had tested positive for while pregnant.
The midwife looking after us had never experienced a hypnobirth before but read the birth preferences and followed every request perfectly. My husband dimmed the lights, put the MP3s on repeat and performed the light touch massage on me through each surge. At the next examination the midwife was surprised to find I was 6cm and an hour or so later my waters broke.
Baby and I were monitored throughout labour, we both had consistently good heart rates. My surges soon changed and I lent over the back of the bed and started to concentrate on my birth breathing, while my husband encouraging me to bear down and breath through it. It was the part of birth process I felt I had the least control over.

However even at this lowest point, pain relief did not even enter the equation. My mind raced but half way through, Liz’s words of calmness pierced my growing fear and I managed to take back control. Before I knew it I was back in the zone and the head was out. My husband exclaimed “it has your nose and my lips”. One push later and I was holding my baby in my arms.
Unfortunately Ralph was struggling to breath at birth due to a chest infection and was rushed to the neonatal unit where he recovered well. I stayed calm and logical throughout the whole ordeal asking questions and finding out as much information as I could. The hospital staff were absolutely amazing and 36 hours later our boy was, where he belonged, next to me on the hospitals transitional ward.
We can’t even come to imagine what implications pain relief medication may have had on our already weakened baby boy. We cannot thank Liz or the hypnobirthing community for the wonderfully calm
birth experience we were lucky enough to share.

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Fiona’s second Hypnobirth!

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My second baby was due on 24th June. My first was 6 days late so I wasn’t expecting for this one to arrive on time, however I woke up on 21st June having had a show. I had period pains on and off throughout the day but nothing else. At around 9pm that evening I started having mild surges that were easily manageable.

Around 12.30am i was getting 3 every 10 mins so phoned the ward and they said to wait until I was getting 3 in 9 that lasted at least one minute each. The midwife told me things might just wear off so to get some sleep however I found that lying down was not comfortable.

By about 2am they were lasting up to 1 1/2 mins and I was getting 3 in 9 so we rang again and told them we were coming in (as I wanted to get in the birthing pool!).

At 3am the midwife examined me and said I was 3-4 cm dilated but it was too early to fill the pool so I leant on the bed to breath through my surges and eventually tried lying on my side to zone out and listen to the affirmations. I kept zoning out however, every time a surge came it woke me up as I still wasn’t comfortable breathing through a surge lying down.

By 3.30am I kept getting the urge to push so I stood up to lean on the bed and breathe and my waters exploded all over my husband’s shoes lol. The Midwives came in to check and I decided to tell them I had the urge to push (as I thought things couldn’t be happening as I had only been 4cm half an hour before so I didn’t think I should tell them before!).

They confirmed the head was crowning and started to fill up the pool a bit anxiously. I lay on the bed (on my back, arggghhh, and started to push again) and they basically said that if I wanted a water birth to get in, so I jumped in at 3.58am, delivered the head straight away and had him by 4.02am!!!

So not really the relaxing water birth I was planning on but can’t believe how quickly he made an appearance, I had no pain relief, not even gas and air this time. The midwife thought I would be at least another couple of hours! The birth breathing went out the window as the urge to push took over so I just went with my body.

This was my second hypnobirth and Although it didn’t go 100% to plan (as I was only in the water for a few minutes) I really think the HB techniques me and my husband learned were a god send and made it a positive experience. Thank you Liz Stanford and the Calm Birth School.”

If you’re looking for classes in the Solihull area check

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When a Hypnobirth doesn’t go to plan…Kathryn’s positive birth story

My waters broke in the early hours of Friday morning and I laboured at home as the latent stage of labour progressed.  My contractions became frequent but were irregular.  Giles went to work as normal in the morning but then came home after lunch as things seemed to be moving along.  Early evening we called the midwife, but I was only 3cm dilated and still in the latent phase so they left until established labour was achieved.  They suggested I have a bath and then use a TENS machine to help with my backache.  While Giles was starting a bath I lent over the landing banister and felt that the contractions were getting stronger and more regular.  I used my surge & relax breathing all the way through.
An hour and a half after the midwives had left they were back and I was 9cm dilated!!  With the birth seemingly imminent, we had no time to get the birthing pool ready and we were upstairs in the bedroom, rather than downstairs where we had intended for the birth to happen!  A bit of impromptu furniture shifting later and we had everything set up for the birth. The midwives were excellent and let me breathe the baby down, but due to his position it took a long time to get to 10cms and both Oliver and I ended up tired out.  Oliver’s heart rate was taking longer to recover after each effort to birth and we were also approaching 24 hours since the waters broke, so we took the decision to head in to hospital for assistance.
In the ambulance I used my hypnobirthing relaxation breathing and visualisation to prevent myself from pushing when contractions occurred (much, much easier said than done!!), and when we arrived at hospital we went straight to a delivery room. The baby had to be monitored constantly, so I ended up on my back, in a delivery bed (one of the least helpful birthing positions possible, neither upright, forward nor open). Rather than breathing the baby down, I was told to actively push and due to the position of the baby it became apparent that he wasn’t coming out without assistance, so a forceps delivery was required.  This also meant that Oliver was taken from me, the cord was cut and no initial skin to skin which I have found very difficult to deal with.  I did ask to be in a different position and to be able to allow the cord to pulsate, but I was told that Oliver needed some oxygen initially to wake him up.  While I was being ‘repaired’ Giles had skin to skin time with him, which was better than nothing.
Pain relief: During the labour and birth I used a TENS machine on the lowest setting (this was mainly because the backache was masking the contractions and we thought it might help), and then I had some local anaesthetic just prior to the forceps delivery.  That’s it.  The rest was hypnobirth breathing, visualisation and Giles using the deepening techniques.
The doctor at Heartlands was absolutely amazing and explained my options to me all the way through.  I refused an injection of oxytocin to ‘highten’ my contractions, but said that I would allow forceps delivery (it was explained that ventouse was unlikely to be successful because of the baby’s position).  I was completely alert and able to voice my wishes all the way through the labour and birth, and this was because of the hypnobirthing techniques that you taught us.  Funnily enough even though I was stuck in the worst position to give birth, in the worst environment (bright lights, no music etc.) I was completely calm.  I have you to thank for this!!!
I’m not sure that we can thank you enough Liz!!  It’s been an amazing journey so far!!
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Is the second pregnancy easier than the first?

Let’s get started with me imparting the knowledge that…I love pregnancy!

I love being pregnant (well, I like the bit after the morning sickness and the bit before you just want lie down in a dark room and wait for baby to decide to make an appearance).

The whole thing AMAZES me. It is the beginning of a life, of course, but it is also THE most life changing thing that will EVER happen to you.

Your first pregnancy, you exist in a kind of bubble. It’s lovely, you’re not sure what is going on really but your partner is more responsive, you can lay off the housework a bit more (and not get too much hassle), you can nap, you have an almost surreal glow about you.

So, your first baby comes along and you make your way through the newborn phase (tears, sore boobies, sleep deprived but so, so in love!). And 18 months later, wham- your pregnant again!

Whooooaaaaa- how did that happen?? Ok- so even if you planned it, a little bit of you is thinking that anyway!

This time round, pregnancy feels different. I remember it so well! You contend with the first 3 months of feeling tired and crappy. You are just waiting for the glowing pregnant goddess within you to break through and before you know it you are 6 months and she ain’t showing up this time!!

Pregnancy with a little one already in tow is a whole different ball game.

Less time to relax.

More “stuff” to tidy up.

Places to be.

A little person to constantly entertain.

Your partner, although still very understanding and supportive, needs you to take less naps (what?!!).

And so you end up in a bit of an exhausted vacuum. Let’s not even get started on work (they were so excited about the first but now it’s like they are bored already?!!).

All this is, of course, interspersed with moment after moment of sheer wonder, joy, excitement and gratitude. But that doesn’t take away the need to relax, unwind and have some serious ME time! Or the desire to connect completely and totally with your baby and to just let go of the fears and anxieties that dog you each day.

Lets just get it clear- its OK to feel these things. I have felt them too! It isn’t selfish to want some time out and to take care of yourself. Its simply good parenting.

Think about what you can do to reduce your stress levels and experience a calmer more relaxed pregnancy. Have a pregnancy massage, talk to your partner about your worries, learn some relaxation techniques, do gentle exercise or enjoy some time to yourself to have your hair or your nails done!

These reasons and more have led me to arrange a temporary escape, a momentary getaway, a wondrous pause in life before it all gets a little crazier (a love infused crazy). Join me on my Pregnancy Retreat on the 8th July for 24 hours of where my focus will be on;

– providing you with the support you need to enjoy your pregnancy,
– helping you to release or demystify any fears that you have about giving birth,
– restore balance and positivity into your life
– encouraging you and showing you how to bond with your baby

Get in touch on to receive a full itinerary and book on to get the ME time you deserve!

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Noah’s Positive Birth

At week 41 and still no sign of baby, I was starting to feel fed up. Chris and I had tried the ‘natural’ things to bring on labour with no result. We had been offered a sweep at 40 +3 days, which we had politely declined.

At 41 +2 days, around 7pm I had cramping which progressively become more powerful. I used the breathing techniques learnt in hypnobirthing to remain calm. The comical side of this happening was Chris sat at the table sorting through different screws and bolts arranging them into size order while I shouted yep when a surge came and ok when it had gone – he had downloaded an app that worked all the timings out for us.

We eventually called the hospital and were told come to come in if we felt we needed too. Chris and I decided we would hold off as we were feeling relaxed and that we had this all under control.

When we eventually made our way to the hospital arriving at 0230am, we were taken straight into a birthing pool room, I was thrilled as I had hoped for a water birth!!

We explained to the midwife we were Hypnobirthing and gave her our birth preference list. She was beyond accommodating and allowed us to prep the room with music and low lighting. It’s hard to explain but it was all very calming and relaxing.

My surges soon changed and I felt the urge to bear down, Chris encouraged me to remain focused. This was the part I knew would be challenging and hard to stay focused through. I remember Chris looking me in the eyes and saying not long now! I was excited that I would soon meet my baby and ecstatic that I had done this with just some gas and air. Unfortunately things didn’t go according to plan and on assessment we were told baby had shoulder dystocia and monitoring baby was a little difficult.

My little boy came into the world with a little help that we hadn’t anticipated but because of the Hypnobirthing this change to our birth plan was taken in our stride.

I remember telling myself over and over throughout the whole experience “remember the breathing”.  I truly believe that without the knowledge and techniques we gained from Liz via the Hypnobirthing sessions this really would have been such a different experience!

Chelle & Chris

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